Have you ever felt as if your social life is lacking because you have a child(ren)? Do you get angry when you hear people say that they refuse to date a man/woman with kids? If so, why do you feel that way? It’s just a sign that those people weren’t meant to be in your life. There are many people who aren’t too choosey about who they date as long as they like you and the loving is good. If your social life is lacking, believe me, it’s not your child’s fault. It’s yours! You need to carry yourself with the same confidence that you would if you were single. Either you’re fly or you aren’t fly. Don’t blame your child for your mishaps! I’ll be fresh-to-death and looking amazing with my son on my arm. It hasn’t deterred anyone from showing interest in me. I’m proud of my status and I’m not going to allow myself to look a mess because my son wants to cry his butt off every time I’m getting dressed. They don’t want you….f**k ‘em. I must say, it is more difficult to date when you have a kid(s), but it’s not impossible. Parents gotta have fun too. There are some rules to dating with children and here are some to abide by:
1) Look fabulous! If you do this thing right, people will make exceptions to date you all the time.
2) NEVER lie about having a child. That’s equivalent to lying on your stick. It’s a no no. Be honest with the person you’re dating/cutting. Let them make the decision on whether they want to stay or not.
3) You probably want to lay out your availability. They can’t get mad if you let them know upfront that you’re not available on Tuesdays. Also let them know what your status is with your baby mama/daddy. The more comfortable they are with you, the longer they will stay.
4) It’s probably better to not bring random people around your child(ren). If the person you’re dating/cutting is not there to stay, then don’t allow them to meet your child(ren). It’s unstable and silly and there is no need for that type of confusion. Oh yeah, and let’s not call everyone Uncle/aunt “so and so”. I’m pretty sure that messes up a child’s mentality on family.
If you’re reading this and you live in Cincy, I’m sorry I’ve wasted your time. Everybody is Cincy got a kid.
7 Comentários:
"NEVER lie about having a child." *clapping hand*. This is the number one reason that most single women don't date men with children. It would be so much easier if you lay all cards o the table and let us decide. "Why you gotta lie Craig".
Amen on number four. So women with little girls especially need to understand that one.
I have a 5yr son with autism spectrum but I haven't had a problem with dating. He's always the first thing I mention and consider when making plans. If the guy survives they still have him to get past, he very protective of his mama lol. Great lessons.
Great tips on dating with children!
I have been one to say I'd never date with kids... but it got harder to keep with that standard as I got older. When I did try dating men with chidlren, my complain was mainly #3. It seemed the guys were always doing something with their child.
Dont care what anybody says. If you got a child its a strike. Its damn near like a felony ( not as extreme) but its basically something that happened in your past that haunts you today.
@ anonymous..to each his or her own
but do you have to refer to children as HAUNTS to single parents
the hell is that about
they could be divorced or anything
they could be widowed, other parent died
why do people make the assumption that if you are a single parent, you were trifling and made a mistake?
@anonymous
I assume that you don't ever plan to have kids. It was a little mean to say those things, but there are people in this world that think this way.
If you were undeniably into someone and you found out they had a child, how would you back out of that? What would you say to them?
The older we get, the harder it will be to find someone without a child. It's really as simple as that.
Kudos to you for #4. I get so sick of seeing these "ladies" with a different "Uncle" for their kids every month... so uncouth.
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