SwagStars...I got a simple question,Is love enough? Can love hold folk together anymore? I know that times have changed, but damn! Folk getting married and a year or two later getting divorced. Folk changing relationships every season. Whatever happened to the love our grandparents had for one another? The love that even if we eating mayonnaise sandwiches and sugar water, you tell your wife or significant other..."Everything going to be alright babe" and she replies.."I know boo. I got your back." Is that love still out there??? Has that love went away with the 70's? I just keep hearing folk breaking up because..He lost his job, or she let herself go. I understand that some folk grow apart, that happens. Some folk, over time, just want different things. I get that, but do folk get married or get in the relationships not so much for love anymore, but for what someone can do for them and then if I fall in love cool??? I know folk who have gotten into relationships because she that bomb ass p*ssy and her ass is phat or he drives a Benz and is a Doctor. What happens when her booty isn't as firm as it once was and he looses his Benz and med license?? Then what?? Can love sustain you through it? When that person can't do for you anymore, or can't provide or perform the way they use to, is love enough to keep you together?
My grandparents were married 32 years before my grandfather passed away in 82. They were married longer than I have been alive(29 yrs). If he would've not passed, they would've been married a whopping 59 YEARS. Thats love!!! My grandma has told me stories about her and my grandfathers relationship. At times I don't think she liked him very well, but through it all, they persevered. Can our generation do that??? Can we not do a 3 and out? What happened to "till death do us part" or "I got your back boo?" I'm in love with that Marvin Gaye, Teddy Pendergrass, Temptations, The O'Jays, Barry White even Pre-Bad Michael Jackson love. That love that makes your face turn up like the way my face is turning up writing the blog. Thats the love that the old skool folk used to dance to when we 80's babies used to wear the pajama's with the feet in them. That's love. I understand, that love can bring pain, but I think my grandparents relationship is a prime example that love can heal all pain.
SwagStars....SOUND OFF!!!
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Love is not enough... Love is not gonna pay the bills if your lights are about to get cut of. Love is not gonna feed you if you are hungry.
I do think that Love is the most important factor in a relationship, but it is not all emcompassing. I think some people get married out of lust. Then they get divorced as soon as things aren't "ideal." IT's entirely too easy to do it.
First off I just want to say...F THE COWBOYS! GIANTS ALL DAY BABY!...okay enough of that.
Okay plain and simple...the problem is that God is not the head of relationships anymore therefore they do not last and love is not a sustaining force. With God anything is possible. And if you look at your grandparents and elders in your family I'm sure you'll see that they were all very strong members in their churches and had a STRONG faith. IMO Love can conquer ALL things BUT both parties have to be willing to work and sacrifice. A relationship isn't going to be a cake walk throughout its entire existance. There will be times when you won't be able to stand to look at that person...but that too shall pass.
A problem nowadays is that most of our men don't have fathers to teach them how to treat, love and care for woman and most of our women didn't grow up with daddies to show them the respect that they deserve to be treated with...so what happens? Women settle for less and men (not all) continue down a path of destruction leaving more and more of our babies fatherless. Now that's not to say that all single parent home children are failures...because I'm the product of one. BUT it is through time and life lessons that I've learned not to settle for being treated less than anything that I deserve...not because my daddy taught me.
But I digress.
In summation, put God back in the home, back as the head of the relationship and back as the head of your life and look what power your relationship has to overcome any temptations, obstacles, hills and valleys that may come your way. I can say this because I've seen it first hand. Even with my grandparents. They were dirt poor but they still overcame and worked TOGETHER and prayed...and they were happily until my grandpa died in 2001 from cancer.
We all have that love in us...but we have to be willing to endure all the GOOD and BAD that comes along with it. Love is a BEAUTIFUL thing and something that we should treasure if we are so blessed to experience it.
Are you strong enough and up for the challenge?
Is Love enough? Hmm great question..is any one thing enough? Love is a necessity, but so is communication,respect, friendship understanding, patience, and comprimise.
We live in a very selfish society where if something does not work for you (off rip) or you have put in "your work," then be done with it. We are a generation of perpetual disposers if is not to our liking.
My grandparents have been married for 62 years (both still living and I am blessed to have them), and they grew up in a times where relying on each other was not just a necessity but a desire; a testimony that they can survice the worse. They understand it is WE NOT ME in the relationship.
My grandmother reminds me that it is ok to be an independent young woman, but that does not mean you are less of an independent woman because you want to rely on your husband, boyfriend, man i the relationship for somethings. SO that I don't need a man ish is for the birds, because ultimately Women need Men and Men need Women. We balance each other.
Love maintains, God Sustains, and we must not have the mind set of "I am going to get mine before you get yours." With such egotisical and narcissitic views, its no wonder so many relationships become toxic and dissolve rapidly.
So Love might not be enough through all times, but surely, it is a constant (if it was there to begin with). Remember a relationship is not just two people being together, its a kinship and alliance of two beings.
Beautifully written @ R Nichole
What do some of the men think?
Thanks and I could not have agreed with you more about God being at the head of all relationships @JerzeeGirl
Thanks and I could not have agreed with you more about God being at the head of all relationships @JerzeeGirl
Nope..people are more concerned with your job status, how many people you slept with and being an afluent power couple when they get married. Then 2 years later they realized that they didn't know eachother..and that they dont, in fact, like eachother's personality..
and I agree about the LUST..they LUST after having a perfect successful life, they LUST after being a doctor's wife/husband, the LUST after being affluent in this society...
They dont LOVE anything but how they will look to everyone else..they LOVE how succesful they will appear with the seemingly perfect mate...I mean..I have to marry her..she makes 6 figures and only had sex 2 guys her whole life...she has perfectly relaxed hair ...I need to marry her..LMAO
Im so done with people
Ladies you are so right about God being the head of your relationship! As someone who has been married for 7 yrs, I think I can speak for the men out here who can relate to my situation! Fact is RELATIONSHIPS are HARD as hell! I believe that it takes a whole hell of a lot more than LOVE! Granted it is an important part of the relationship, the LOVE prevents you from being stupid...From going out and cheating or just messing up! (And if you cheated then you are NOT in love with your spouse!PERIOD) I admit there are times when I simply can't stand my wife, and i'm sure the feeling is mutual!:) But Love and committment endures and we get back on track! In our 7 yrs we have had to do counseling and such, but Church was the factor in keeping us on track! Just remember FELLAS- This shit is REAL WORK!! holla!
When it comes to love in relationships, people are always in a hurry. Many people try to get what they can get and then move on to the next person if you aren't movin fast enough. I don't think that couples are taking the time to get to know each other like our ancestors did. Relationships also change as you get older. They become reality, especially when couples are either married or living together. Then its called "responsibilities".
When two people really are in love, they no longer live for themselves. As an example, what if a lady was dating this doctor character before he became an MD, and they decide to get married after he finished his residency? It wasn't because he's driving that benz, its because she loved him so much and endured the hardship with him. Now in the event that something happens and he looses his benz and his job, lets just hope that this sista has her stuff together and can say "Don't worry about it baby, I got the bills for a while". She should be there to support & care for this man, the same way that he has been there to care & support her.
But communication and having a opened mind plays a major role in the shaping, molding and holding together of relationships. Some people are too proud and egotistic, to express their true feelings & hurts in relationships so love gets wise & takes the easy way out.
I completely agree! marriage isnt considered Holy anymore..They dont take it seriously going into it. Its sad
Is love enough? I know it may sound naive, but I believe so. Sure it doesn't pay the bills or keep your belly full, but together with a loved one you can figure out how to pay the bills and eat mayonnaise sandwiches lol.
I believe in love, God has sent me the man I'm spending the rest of my life with. Yes, I believe in till death do us part....my parents have been together for 37 years and counting....my grandparents for 50 years....
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